After disclosing that he broke his relationship with a woman because she was independent and had had everything, a Nigerian writer triggered an online controversy.
Chinedu Ihekwoaba, a young man from Nigeria, revealed on Twitter that being with his ex-girlfriend made him feel less of a man because she was too independent.
He claimed that he realized he couldn’t control her because she had everything and he couldn’t provide for her, therefore the relationship was over.
He went on to say that he felt useless in the relationship because he wasn’t making any contributions.
In his own words,
“I broke up with a lady because she was too self-reliant. She had everything. I made no contribution. In the relationship, I felt useless. I couldn’t even pretend to be a man. I don’t think I’ll be able to keep her under control. She isn’t going to submit to me. So I put an end to it. She didn’t do anything wrong…”
“Instead of being intimidated or feeling inferior, you should have regarded her as an inspiration to boost your game, focus, and work harder dear brother,” Instagram user @mr.ajaks commented in response. It’s perfectly acceptable to be inspired by anyone, regardless of their age or gender……”
@sisi medley, “It truly irritates me when people use the word “control” when referring to their significant other. I’ll stay away from a man like this at all costs; what does he mean when he says “manage her”?
@mondayobinna1988, “On what grounds should someone who contributes as much as you or more than you be submissive?” If you desire such goods, go for the ones who aren’t self-sufficient and for whom you would supply.”
@beautifulprincess342, “You Never Deserved Her, Bro, Because You Men Are Confused! You Have No Idea What You Want!” You’re all whining about a dependent lady and telling her she needs to get a job right now, but now an independent woman is the one you can’t control! This morning, Abeg, make Una shift jawe!”